You can be single for so long... and be content... but eventually the day will come when being single "ain't what's up". Everybody needs and wants somebody on their side who they can trust, talk to, confide in, have fun with, and just enjoy life with. When you have a partnership life is easier because you are not carrying such a heavy load alone. By the time we are adults and have been in and out of relationships it becomes more difficult to find a worthy mate. Trust is non-existent because every person has been hurt before. How can you have a healthy relationship without trust? I believe people would rather be in an unhealthy relationship with no trust and live insecure than be alone. Loneliness can be so painful. When you are lonely you feel deserted and unloved. You can have friends to keep you company, but when the time comes for your friends to go on about their business you are right back where you started from.
How long do two people need to know each other before deciding they want to be in a relationship? Is there a time limit on love? Don't we have the choice to love a person? Most people say "I can't help that I love him/her". This is true, but you could have prevented the love from growing into something real. There are several stages of love and several different types of love. You decide to love a person and from there your emotions take over. Trying to overcome emotions with mind control is difficult. The brain is so complex and is the control center for our body. We cannot always control the signals our brain sends because we do not have the capacity to do so.
So what if you've decided you are going to open up to a person and love him or her, but the love is not returned? Then you feel pain and loneliness, once again. Then the small amount of trust you decided you would invest into a person is taken away and it makes it worse for the next person you decide to love. Love is so mysterious, love is so rare. When I seek a potential mate I look for a certain chemistry between him and I. This chemistry is rarely found. Any time it has happened it has happened with the wrong person. What does that say about me? I connect with the wrong people, which means I am the wrong person. To find the right person you have to be the right person, otherwise you will find the wrong one.
You can have your guard up so high....you can have a heart cold as ice....you can say single is the way to be... but in all honesty, you probably feel like you can never find true love because true love is scarce. Why let your guard down knowing every time you have done it before it was a mistake? Why soften your heart and allow a person in knowing they will see that as a sign of weakness and play games with it?
People will take you for granted. Nobody trusts anybody so why try to prove you are trustworthy? Why waste the time? Why confide in a person when they will turn around and throw your secrets back up in your face? People wonder why I am so cold, why they can never get my time, why I have such a bad attitude, why my outlook on life is so negative, why I feel I will never be in a relationship, why I am so mean....
I've been raped, robbed, used, abused, taken advantage of, disowned, lied to, shot, played for a fool....
My own mother doesn't want me & I barely have any family...
I have been a single mother since the age of 14...
Any relationship I have attempted to have I was faithful, I was behind him 100% right or wrong, I always went out of my way & I was way too good because none of them deserved any of it.
My friendships with people never last. I expect too much of them and I am too much to handle, too hard to deal with. I keep it too real and they stay too fake. Some may say I have a chip on my shoulder, but hey that's me. I don't feel sorry for myself and I am not mad that life turned out to be the way it is. Life is not fair. You just have to deal with it the best way you know how. Maybe I am still trying to figure out how to deal with life...I don't have all the answers... hell I don't think I even have one of the answers.
You never know what a person has been through and what a person has experienced that made them the way they are. You should never judge. Always have compassion and try to understand rather than pointing fingers all the time. It is always said that you shouldn't judge your past relationships on your current one, so you should automatically trust a person until they give you a reason not to. Well how about this... on a scale from 1-10 I'll give you a 5 when it comes to trust. From that 5 you can either add to it or you can take from it.
So many times I have been told I am going to end up being old, single and a bitter old woman. Well guess what I'm already single and bitter, and old age is inevitable... so it is what it is. Maybe one day somebody will come along and will feel where I am coming from... maybe not.
I've been hurt in every way possible by other people. People are selfish and inconsiderate. Sometimes I am selfish and inconsiderate. Sometimes I think I am right and everybody else is wrong....and you can't tell me any different. People should see things FROM MY point of view, rather than conjure up their own opinions.
So nobody is perfect. Everybody has had a different path in life to follow. Sometimes two paths meet up and become one, sometimes they don't. The single life is complicated. Every single person has their own reasons for not wanting a mate. Don't give your heart away too easily, doing so can cause you to have missing pieces of your heart forever. Don't show emotion too soon, doing so can be a sign of weakness. Don't give your love away unless somebody has already given you theirs.
